It’s Possible. Why You Should Let Them
I don't know about you, but I struggle with control. Actually, if I'm honest, control isn't the challenge; it's giving up control that's the issue. I simply like having a say in what happens, whether it’s with my family, friends, or at my job.
The problem is that life doesn't always go the way we plan, and when we're faced with situations beyond our control, it can be challenging to know how to handle them. For years, I struggled to find a way to cope with the disappointments and hurt these situations caused, until I discovered the "Let Them" theory.
Break Free and “Let Them”
The "Let Them" theory is a transformational way of thinking that's insanely simple. Basically, when you find yourself trying to control a situation, person, circumstance, or outcome, you stop, take a step back and mentally “Let Them" happen. It’s a mind shift.
For example, did your friends go out to eat and not invite you? Let Them. Does your company want to go in a different direction? Let Them. Did someone you trust break your confidence? Let Them.
What it comes down to is that you can't control other people’s intentions and behaviors. You can try to guilt or manipulate them into doing what you want, but does that ever really work? Not long term it doesn’t, and certainly not without consequences.
Once you embrace this mindset and stop trying to micromanage people and relationships, you'll experience a feeling of self-control. No longer will their choices have the power to make or break your mood. You'll stop being reactive and start to gain better control of your emotions in unexpected or hurtful situations. Sure, it may feel satisfying to respond with anger in the moment, but that satisfaction is fleeting, and soon, you’ll be back to feeling lousy.
So How Does This Work?
Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way:
Start by not trying to control the outcome of every situation. Focus on the only thing you can control—yourself.
When someone’s actions hurt you, quietly tell yourself, “Let Them.” Repeat it as many times as needed. These words will calm you and remind you that while you can't change the situation, you can change how you feel about it. Then, move on.
By repeating “Let Them” before reacting, you create space between your emotions and your words, which lessens the sting of hurt.
This is a technique to safeguard your mind, body, and soul.
There will be times when you feel taken advantage of or dismissed. Respond with kindness, set clear boundaries, and maintain your integrity—never sink to their level.
By letting people be who they are, you to become a better version of yourself. You don’t have to agree with their behavior, but you don’t have to let it affect you either.
Life is a journey filled with highs and lows. Embracing the "Let Them" mindset can transform your life by freeing you from unnecessary stress caused by someone else’s poor behavior.
It’s so simple that it sounds too good to be true. I get it; letting go is hard. But with practice, it becomes easier.
Now Imagine what life could be like if you could truly "Let Them" be who they are without it affecting the person you aspire to be.
So, the next time you find yourself consumed with disappointment, give it a try.
When you Let Them, you’ll gain peace. It's possible!