Talking to Kids About Self Love

The biggest hurdles in our adult lives are the lessons we failed to learn as children. The

concepts and ways of being that perhaps weren’t modeled to us, but would have been helpful to

our experience if they had been, are what we spend years learning to embody later. Our

modern day schools teach us all things biology and math, but self-love is a topic we’re left to

dissect on our own. Hence, it’s a topic, or struggle rather, that circulates into adulthood.

But as conscious adults we can incorporate this teaching into our children’s lives so that they’re

well equipped for the things we weren’t.

The best way to communicate self love to your children is by showing it to them. A mother who

prioritizes her self care and morning routine, and states her needs, for example, shows her

children that their time is valuable and worthy of crafting as well. It gives them permission to

say, “I’m taking time for myself,” and to feel ok about it. This simple act silently communicates

the love for one self and the dedication to that love. Bear in mind that how you talk to, look at,

and behave towards your own self is also teaching your children how to approach themselves.

Your children benefit from hearing you talk about, and value, their strengths, while also

recognizing their weaknesses. This teaches them that we all have strengths and weaknesses

and that we equally belong despite them. The weaknesses that can be refined should gently be

solved as problem-solving fosters self-love. Keeping in mind, correction of children’s attitudes

should be done with patience and focus so you don’t demotivate them in their self-love journey.

Talk to children about hobbies and activities that make them feel good, and create healthy

habits for their body and mind. Taking care of themselves will innately make them feel good,

boosting the way they feel about themselves. Teach them to prioritize these hobbies as a way to

honor themselves. In turn, through fulfillment of sports and activities, children learn confidence

which also contributes to self-love.

Finally, communicate openly with your children. Explain to them the “Why,” behind certain

choices and decisions, and teach them to express the same. Try to relate to them and nourish

their wild ambition instead of allowing your adult limitations to limit them also. Children dream

big because self-love is an innate quality, until we learn otherwise.